One of the hardest places to find ourselves in a relationship is when our partner can't seem to change. And we are ready to run! But did you ever consider that if you free yourself and change that pattern, you might help your partner change as well?
Have you ever felt
imprisoned in a relationship? What keeps
you there? Rage, love, guilt, tradition,
habit? When you hit feeling imprisoned, you know it’s time to do something
radically different. Instead of feeling
guilty for wanting to go out by yourself, why not listen to your instincts that
are screaming at you to get out! That
doesn’t necessarily mean forever! It
means leave for now. Don’t blame your
partner. Change you own actions; change
your own story.
If your actions are not making things better, then you need
to find a new personal story that says, ‘Listen to your instincts and stop the
mind chatter about all the reasons you can’t follow your instincts. You’re
afraid to because you think if you do, something bad will happen—because your
family or religion or education told you so.
If you check in with your feelings and think about how to go about acting
on your instincts, it doesn’t have to hurt anybody. People can choose to be hurt, but if you do
it truthfully with the right intention, it frees up energy for change.’
